St. Louis, MO
Our recent visit with our granddaughters was filled with joy and wonderment as to how they can know so much about the world at the young ages of 2.5 and 7 years old. Our older granddaughter, Elizabeth got her hair cut and asked her mother if there were enough hair cuttings to give to a girl who does not have any hair. Obviously, there have been conversations with her parents about a child having chemotherapy, being bald, and sometimes using wigs. Memories of past interactions and an amazing amount of empathy combine to give Elizabeth a sense of wanting to help another child with serious health issues. We never expected her to think of sharing her hair, so few people/adults would think of this act of kindness.
Our sense of what we expect from our two year old, Paige seemed out of kilter as well. Paige has that toddler run and amazement of everything. She seems happy with life itself, and has the energy of only a two year old can have. I was reminded how literal two year olds are. Her Granddad was swinging her and said, “Reach up and touch the sky!” Paige carefully let go first with one hand and then the other—saying, “I can’t touch it Granddad!!” Granddad’s statement had both poetic and aesthetic elements; ones that a two year old cannot understand in her literal world.
Then, we were delighted to be Skyping with Paige and her Mama. Mama asked, “Paige, give Nana and Granddad a Kiss”. Dismayed, Paige said, “But I can’t touch them”. We looked at each other and responded to her we could blow kisses. This action seemed to satisfy her.
How many times do we say things that we believe toddlers understand? Our higher level expectations may be with the toddler being confused. Or quite the opposite, our expectations are for more baby like behavior. I am sure you have heard people talking childish/baby talk to a toddler. It sounds really out of place, doesn’t it?
All of this gave us pause, Paige is just 2.5. So many times she acts older. Her language changes from very precise enunciation to a hurried, garbled string of sounds, which sometimes even her sister cannot understand. Perhaps we expect too much at times.
Grandparenting is much like parenting. You are always learning more about your grandchildren’s abilities and past experiences that combine to make amazing interactions!
Let’s face it: we all have bad days. Sometime things get piled up or four or five things go wrong. We may or may not verbalize our feelings, frustrations or in general our emotions. But we live with children who are keen observers. They also have bonded with us and are sensitive to our feelings.
So it this wrong or is it part of living in a family? I do believe we live in a family and experience life as it happens. The toilet clogs, the washer breaks, one of our little ones runs a temperature all night, the dog throws up, and on and on.
- Advocating for Children
- Barbie Doll and Our Lives Today: Bald Barbie
- Behavior Management
- Children Living in Poverty
- Children's Education and First Amendment Rights
- Dramatic Play
- Dramatization and Dolls
- Educational Legislation
- Good teaching practices
- Growing up
- Ideas for Having a New Babysitter or Nanny
- Learning to Read
- Media and Marketing Toys
- Parenting Approach
- Poverty and Education
- Princess and Disney
- Purchasing Toys
- Quality Childcare
- Self-esteem and children
- Starting a New Child Care Center
- Starting Kindergarten
- Toddlers & Toilet Training
- Toddlers and a new sibling
- Toddlers and Bedtime
- Young children