St. Louis, MO

Category: Emotions

Learning the ABC’s

Alphabet books come in delightful sizes and themes. You can buy in cardboard and paperback books with themes of the ABC’s. But an additional experience and free is finding the alphabet in everyday print. Children first tend to become aware and learn capital letters. Capital letters are often more important and seen more are letters you find outside. Let’s take the ‘STOP’ sign at the end of the block. Ask your child what she thinks it says. Then touch the print and say, “This says Stop”. “S …T..O…P”.   Look for some other print and do the same thing.

Toddlers are Learning: Even with the Dog’s Water Bowl and the TV Remote!

Your child has an innate curiosity to explore and learn. Toddlers face a conundrum, stay next to Mommy or Daddy where it is safe or move away, crawling or walking to see something new. Usually the toddler chooses to move away, using those muscles and the new activity of crawling or walking so that she can understand the world around her.

Here in the US, we encourage our children to be independent. The act of crawling and walking is celebrated not only because of the new skill, but because with it we know comes more learning. As parents we might not always recognize the learning part, but it is there.

What We Expect from Grandchildren

Our recent visit with our granddaughters was filled with joy and wonderment as to how they can know so much about the world at the young ages of 2.5 and 7 years old. Our older granddaughter, Elizabeth got her hair cut and asked her mother if there were enough hair cuttings to give to a girl who does not have any hair. Obviously, there have been conversations with her parents about a child having chemotherapy, being bald, and sometimes using wigs. Memories of past interactions and an amazing amount of empathy combine to give Elizabeth a sense of wanting to help another child with serious health issues. We never expected her to think of sharing her hair, so few people/adults would think of this act of kindness.
Our sense of what we expect from our two year old, Paige seemed out of kilter as well. Paige has that toddler run and amazement of everything. She seems happy with life itself, and has the energy of only a two year old can have. I was reminded how literal two year olds are. Her Granddad was swinging her and said, “Reach up and touch the sky!” Paige carefully let go first with one hand and then the other—saying, “I can’t touch it Granddad!!” Granddad’s statement had both poetic and aesthetic elements; ones that a two year old cannot understand in her literal world.
Then, we were delighted to be Skyping with Paige and her Mama. Mama asked, “Paige, give Nana and Granddad a Kiss”. Dismayed, Paige said, “But I can’t touch them”. We looked at each other and responded to her we could blow kisses. This action seemed to satisfy her.
How many times do we say things that we believe toddlers understand? Our higher level expectations may be with the toddler being confused. Or quite the opposite, our expectations are for more baby like behavior. I am sure you have heard people talking childish/baby talk to a toddler. It sounds really out of place, doesn’t it?
All of this gave us pause, Paige is just 2.5. So many times she acts older. Her language changes from very precise enunciation to a hurried, garbled string of sounds, which sometimes even her sister cannot understand. Perhaps we expect too much at times.
Grandparenting is much like parenting. You are always learning more about your grandchildren’s abilities and past experiences that combine to make amazing interactions!

How ‘Tuned In’ is Your Child to Your Emotions?

Let’s face it: we all have bad days.  Sometime things get piled up or four or five things go wrong.  We may or may not verbalize our feelings, frustrations or in general our emotions.  But we live with children who are keen observers.  They also have bonded with us and are sensitive to our feelings.

So it this wrong or is it part of living in a family?  I do believe we live in a family and experience life as it happens.  The toilet clogs, the washer breaks, one of our little ones runs a temperature all night, the dog throws up, and on and on.