St. Louis, MO

Category: Attachment

Learning the ABC’s

Alphabet books come in delightful sizes and themes. You can buy in cardboard and paperback books with themes of the ABC’s. But an additional experience and free is finding the alphabet in everyday print. Children first tend to become aware and learn capital letters. Capital letters are often more important and seen more are letters you find outside. Let’s take the ‘STOP’ sign at the end of the block. Ask your child what she thinks it says. Then touch the print and say, “This says Stop”. “S …T..O…P”.   Look for some other print and do the same thing.

Leaving Your Child at a New Childcare Center

I was shopping yesterday, and met a young woman who was obviously worrying and upset. She had left her baby for the first time at a childcare center. Her child is nine months old, and she said, “I am sure he is okay. He went right into the caregiver’s arms”. Between her emotional response and her worried look, I am not sure she fully believed it. The hours were slowly going by at work.

Becoming a Grandparent……..

If you are going to become a grandparent, know that a wonderful new role awaits you. People would tell me about their grandchildren and go on and on. Not that I minded their details of grandchildren’s experiences or showing new pictures. I knew something special was happening to them.

But nothing prepared my husband and myself for the birth of our first and second granddaughters. Your life does change—for the better! The birth releases in you an unconditional love. You experience joy for baby, for your child and his/her spouse, and yourself—a triple dose of happiness!

“Loveys and Security Blankets” Should Young Children Still Use Them?

Is your child making the transition to preschool or Kindergarten?  Should she take that dirty, scraggly blanket, stuffed animal?  Is it embarrassing to you?  Here is the ‘scoop’.

All of us need to be accepting of all security objects. And that ‘all’ includes moms, dads, siblings, extended family members and teachers!   As a director of a lab school and private childcare center, and as a teacher, I have seen a wide assortment of ‘loveys’: stuffed animals—horses, bears, Big Bird, comb, mother’s bracelet, dad’s key chain, dolls, books, blankets, sweaters, etc.. The most important thing about a security object is the the availability of the lovey and the adult’s acceptance.

Strong Attachment Relationships Have Large Benefits

Attachment develops throughout the infant and toddler years between children and primarily parents, but also grandparents, siblings, caregivers and others. This invisible bond develops as you touch and cuddle the newborn, and then progresses from comforting physical closeness to the baby’s emotional reliance. Attachment relationships are essential to providing the security needed for the child to later take risks in exploration as well as in motor development—crawling and then walking. For the child, security is her knowing that someone cares for her and will take care of her—she will be safe. These concepts are conveyed through our day-to-day interactions.
Secure attachment relationships influence their emotional and social development.

Toddlers and Sleeping: How to Have a Peaceful Bedtime

Children go through very normal fears and anxieties of sleeping, the dark, monsters, and nightmares.  And bedtime can become stressful for the entire family.

The ‘key’ to a peaceful bedtime with toddlers and preschoolers is a very predictable series of events.  For example,  a parent should tell her child that it is almost time to get ready for bed,  then offer a calm activity to do together such as working a puzzle.  It is critical to create and follow a bedtime routine:  these activities might be taking a bath, eating a light snack with milk, brushing teeth, toileting, and reading a book of the child’s choice.  Toddlers and preschoolers respond well to a routine and feel more comfortable knowing what is going to happen next.